reflection
Now I am not perfect. There are those times when unexpected situations come up or I overlooked something on my calendar. But I try to communicate in a sensitive and honest manner. So far things have worked out for me. The are about win win that I struggle with the most is the emotional bank account. Sometimes I am so busy that I take and don't thank others as I would like to. Time is not on my side. I don't send the thank you cards, make the phone call to say thank you, or sometimes even remember who it was that helped me with what. Because of the nature of my job and my family life others make withdrawals to my bank account and don't make those much needed deposits. I find myself making sure that others win and don't always take the time to ask for enough help so that I win also or simply accept the situation without receiving deposits.
commitment
How do I plan on doing this?
1. I will set boundaries with others. When others need something I will be sensitive, open, and honest. When I cannot do something I will be firm and say no.
2. When helping someone with something I will include them in the plan and give them a job. Their job will be something that is mutually beneficial and I will point out the benefits of what we have accomplished when we are done.
3. I will try to make more deposits into other people's emotional bank accounts.
4. I will plan and seek out situations that are win win.